glacierrat
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Jul 6, 2007 3:22:08 GMT -5
Post by glacierrat on Jul 6, 2007 3:22:08 GMT -5
Marriage is more or less a physical manifestation that is supposed to be acknowledged by the world that you two are in love with each other, however due to the latest generations.... ...Breeding habits and divorce suits, the concept of marriage has more or less become a joke. If you are really in love with someone, then marriage will not really be needed because what is better than the physical form of your love for each other than knowing that you both will foreverly be spiritually bonded together. very good ok heres a heads up marragiew would not be required however marriage does bring a lot of problems that were not there before im sure some people on this site no what im tlaking about as ive said in another post i grew up w/o a biological father heres the part i didnt say he died before i was even born from a motercycle acciedent to this day i only have a pitchure of him in my wallet and thats only enogh because i have nothing else of his life xd except for my own body of course=.
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Jul 6, 2007 3:47:25 GMT -5
Post by Luna Sasaguri on Jul 6, 2007 3:47:25 GMT -5
Marriage really, like said before, is like a show to other people that these two people love each other. Nowadays, marriage is mostly just a union for the benefit of either one party, or both, and not really even about the love anymore.
When I get married, I want to feel like I would give everything up for this person. When you have second thoughts during your wedding/day before wedding, that is a HUGE sign that it might not be meant to be.
If you love this person, there shouldn't be any second thoughts. The THOUGHT of second thoughts shouldn't even come to you. Something like that should be weeded out long before the day before the wedding or the wedding itself.
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glacierrat
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Jul 6, 2007 3:51:42 GMT -5
Post by glacierrat on Jul 6, 2007 3:51:42 GMT -5
Marriage really, like said before, is like a show to other people that these two people love each other. Nowadays, marriage is mostly just a union for the benefit of either one party, or both, and not really even about the love anymore. When I get married, I want to feel like I would give everything up for this person. When you have second thoughts during your wedding/day before wedding, that is a HUGE sign that it might not be meant to be. If you love this person, there shouldn't be any second thoughts. The THOUGHT of second thoughts shouldn't even come to you. Something like that should be weeded out long before the day before the wedding or the wedding itself. very true also note that it should be weeded out before tjhe though of even marriage when ur going into a commitment it needs to be forever and not a single fragment could break it apart.
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Jul 6, 2007 13:13:56 GMT -5
Post by adeva on Jul 6, 2007 13:13:56 GMT -5
I feel as if my views on love highly differentiate from all of your views, except for maybe the dictionaries..xD To me, physical and emotional attractions play a very small part if you were to love a person. Love doesn't have to mean that it's reserved for one person, because I believe there are types of love all around. You can love your family, you can love your friend, and you can love yourself. As long as you are willing to make sacrifices for the one that you love, then that right there is love. The ability to give up your own needs for another. However, I think that is only the basic steps and principles of love. And as you find that there are other people you would be willing to sacrifice more of to make them happy, it would just simply mean that you loved them more than others, and this would go on until only one person stands amongst all the ones you love. That one person would be one who you would be willing to give your life for, if it meant helping them in any way humanly possible. The one person that you would love most, would be the most obvious, even if you don't realize it. So you can tell if you love someone, however, if you're in love with someone, then everyone else can tell. ...Then again, I'm probably just drabbling again...x.x Though you did ramble, I agree more or lessSo I pose this question: can you fall out of love with someone? All love is conditional. Some conditions just aren't met. So, once the conditions are met, yes, it is very much likely to escape cupid's chokehold. (Just realized that's a song title. XD)Nowadays, marriage is mostly just a union for the benefit of either one party, or both, and not really even about the love anymore. I'm pretty sure that's what it always was.
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Jul 6, 2007 16:16:50 GMT -5
Post by Luna Sasaguri on Jul 6, 2007 16:16:50 GMT -5
Nowadays, marriage is mostly just a union for the benefit of either one party, or both, and not really even about the love anymore. I'm pretty sure that's what it always was.Nuh uh! Marriage was once about love!
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Jul 6, 2007 16:22:42 GMT -5
Post by adeva on Jul 6, 2007 16:22:42 GMT -5
I'm pretty sure that's what it always was. Nuh uh! Marriage was once about love! Well, let me re-enact what people did to plan a wedding back in the good-old days.
"Ok, I give my daughter to your son, we share our lands, our herds, and our profits. Deal?"
"Well, I'LL have to think about that. Moesha's parents have twice the land but half the live-stock . . . hey! Let's marry your two daughter's to my son! Everyone's happy!"
"That sounds grrrrreeeeaaaaat!"
Bit of dramatization there (couldn't resist) but you get my point.
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Jul 6, 2007 16:26:17 GMT -5
Post by Luna Sasaguri on Jul 6, 2007 16:26:17 GMT -5
Nuh uh! Marriage was once about love! Well, let me re-enact what people did to plan a wedding back in the good-old days.
"Ok, I give my daughter to your son, we share our lands, our herds, and our profits. Deal?"
"Well, I'LL have to think about that. Moesha's parents have twice the land but half the live-stock . . . hey! Let's marry your two daughter's to my son! Everyone's happy!"
"That sounds grrrrreeeeaaaaat!"
Bit of dramatization there (couldn't resist) but you get my point.You're going too far back >_> Before getting married was all about inheriting money from the other spouse when they died, or marrying into a wealthy family and all that, there were marriages where it was all about love. What about the old people these days who have been married for 50ish and up years? Those were based on love....some of them anyway.
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Jul 6, 2007 16:27:41 GMT -5
Post by adeva on Jul 6, 2007 16:27:41 GMT -5
But you're saying marriage is ALWAYS about love.
All I'm saying is that we don't always marry for love.
Love isn't all you need.
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Jul 6, 2007 17:38:42 GMT -5
Post by dboy6890 on Jul 6, 2007 17:38:42 GMT -5
marriage of convenience
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Jul 6, 2007 17:49:53 GMT -5
Post by Luna Sasaguri on Jul 6, 2007 17:49:53 GMT -5
But you're saying marriage is ALWAYS about love. No I didn't >_> If you listen to what the priest is saying, he's spouting junk about loving each other and stuff. I think originally marriage was meant to be for love, but people don't use it for such anymore. Erm...anyway let's not focus too much on marriage and more on love in general.
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Jul 6, 2007 18:00:05 GMT -5
Post by dboy6890 on Jul 6, 2007 18:00:05 GMT -5
lolz frikin cupid i hate him!!!!!!!! making people constantly fall in love
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Jul 6, 2007 20:00:55 GMT -5
Post by moonlightgranger on Jul 6, 2007 20:00:55 GMT -5
Yeah, My parents got maried some 25 years ago, and they meant it truely. Sometimes it feels like it might rip apart but no, they haven't yet. They still love each other. I still have my parents together.
Very old fashion thinking though.
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Jul 6, 2007 21:13:07 GMT -5
Post by Luna Sasaguri on Jul 6, 2007 21:13:07 GMT -5
Yeah, the old fashioned marriages are the ones that have been working apparently. Sad really. I hope my marriage works. I don't want to have to have a divorce. Those are always painful for the kids and for both spouse.
Um yeah, back to the question I posed earlier. Do you think it's possible to fall out of love?
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Jul 6, 2007 21:18:50 GMT -5
Post by moonlightgranger on Jul 6, 2007 21:18:50 GMT -5
No, that would mean fake love. It's not real.
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Jul 6, 2007 21:23:41 GMT -5
Post by Luna Sasaguri on Jul 6, 2007 21:23:41 GMT -5
Um a little more reasoning behind that answer please?
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