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Post by moonlightgranger on Jun 10, 2007 10:27:01 GMT -5
Exactly how important is self image? Why do you think so?
It's as important as you would say first impressions are. Your looks are important , but people do look at how you act, what kind of image or picture do you give them. It's the main thing I think of making friend. If you portrait yourself as a ditcher, mean, villainous, and snobish, then everyone will hate you. If you are this fine, nice and respectable lady, then people will probably want to be your friend.
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Post by Frankenstein Heart on Jun 25, 2007 1:05:01 GMT -5
When people look at me, some think I'm scary. I mainly never smile. But because of my job, I've been smiling at people a bit more frequently. I HATES it! It's scaring me to be so...good-willed. UGH! XP Heh- I know I'll never act as a lady. So no one will see me as such. Hahah...LADY. Yeh. Rite.
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Post by Luna Sasaguri on Jun 25, 2007 1:24:51 GMT -5
I happen to be a shy person. I avoid social things often because I don't like being focused on. My biggest, and pretty much only fears are standing in front of a large crowd and being its focal point, and embarrassing myself in front of people.
As a result, to explicitly avoid such situations, I keep to myself and don't really talk much. I regret it now since I never became close to any of the people I knew since kindergarten though.
Shy people are often misinterpreted as being cold, or cocky (in a silent way). It's pretty annoying. I'm a nice person when I wanna be. I think I am genuinely a nice person but since I shy away from actually showing people that, they think I want nothing to do with them. -_-
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Post by Frankenstein Heart on Jun 25, 2007 1:32:30 GMT -5
^Exaclty. I'm the same way, entirely. Excluding that last part- I DO hate everyone! Tee-hee. I was really shy beginning with high skool, then I got a job, I opened up a little more, but I still don't talk to people or am social. :\ Only the interesting one's!
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Post by Luna Sasaguri on Jun 25, 2007 1:42:48 GMT -5
^Exaclty. I'm the same way, entirely. Excluding that last part- I DO hate everyone! Tee-hee. I was really shy beginning with high skool, then I got a job, I opened up a little more, but I still don't talk to people or am social. :\ Only the interesting one's! I like people, but at the same time I hate people. But I desire to have people who care about me more than I desire to loathe them so...yeah lol. I think we missed Moonlight's original point however... Or I don't know...I'm not entirely sure what she meant by the very first line. Self image...that's pretty much how we portray ourselves. Unless you're an easily influenced person, what other people think of you isn't what your self image is. I portray myself as an ambivert. I am shy around people I don't know, and silly and talkative with people I do. People I don't know though only see the introverted side of me and, like I mentioned before, interpret it as me being rude or mean. People who see my extraverted side know me as a hyper and funny person.
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Post by Frankenstein Heart on Jun 25, 2007 2:26:21 GMT -5
That's wot that's called?? Then I'm probably that. :\
And self-image is....probably important, but I don't think it is. I take "care" of myself more than I'd love to let on...because I can't believe how damn girly I've gotten since grade skool. Ugh. I don't wish to be treated as some princess who gets her feelings hurt easily. I used to be a tom-boy, and that definitely showed. :\
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Post by starbright9 on Jun 25, 2007 12:19:59 GMT -5
I think personality is more important than first impressions such as looks. When people just look at me I come across as quite dull, and even if you saw a list of my interests you'd think I was quite dull and introverted, but once people get to know me I come across as more interesting than that. First impressions are ok but it isn't everything, at least not to me.
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Post by dboy6890 on Jun 25, 2007 15:47:59 GMT -5
I happen to be a shy person. I avoid social things often because I don't like being focused on. My biggest, and pretty much only fears are standing in front of a large crowd and being its focal point, and embarrassing myself in front of people. As a result, to explicitly avoid such situations, I keep to myself and don't really talk much. I regret it now since I never became close to any of the people I knew since kindergarten though. Shy people are often misinterpreted as being cold, or cocky (in a silent way). It's pretty annoying. I'm a nice person when I wanna be. I think I am genuinely a nice person but since I shy away from actually showing people that, they think I want nothing to do with them. -_- i don't mind large crowds, as long as i don't have to give a big speech. that is uber scary! but yeah other than that i am decently confident when it comes to crowds. but mostly because i have already done all the embarrassing things. i was the one to trip on the way up to the front when my name was called for 8th grade graduation. i was the one who slipped an fell because i was trying to run faster than everyone else during the mile run at school. an i was the one to trip over my shoe laces when i just got done telling people not to worry because i never tie my shoes an i never trip
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Post by moonlightgranger on Jun 26, 2007 17:51:30 GMT -5
Ah, I hate first impression completely, and starbright is right personality is way more important.
If you look at my first impression then my self image might be you might belive me to be a slob, and a person that is so antisocial, it's unbelievable. Yeah, even if gave you a list to look about my likes, you might think I am dull, bad, and not cool to hang around. If you get to know the personalities me, then you will see I am caring, promising person that hates to break promises, rather interesting and knowledgeable, leadership type, and very talkative.
I tend to hang around crowds waiting for someone to speak to me rather then speaking first.
Oh, I love crowds, if we talk, you can never break us up. I am rather outgoing! No, I don't mind making speeches, or anything in front of a big crowd. I love it, I did it a fair it, and admired the opportunity. Like I said, I am the leadership type, the pushy leader, that eventually makes or rather persuades people to do stuff. I also believe helping people is another quality of a leader, so I do that too, and lots!
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Post by Luna Sasaguri on Jun 26, 2007 20:32:09 GMT -5
No, I don't mind making speeches, or anything in front of a big crowd. I love it, I did it a fair it, and admired the opportunity. A big part of me not liking to be the focal point of crowds is having their eyes on me, watching me the whole time. Everything I do they can see and it makes me extremely nervous. Moonlight since you're blind you wouldn't get that added anxiety of seeing people staring at you. That could also add to you liking to make speeches in front of crowds.
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Post by Frankenstein Heart on Jun 27, 2007 17:04:33 GMT -5
I could care less if'n I'm in front of a large crowd.
When I'm with friends, I'll even do w/e I want- Inculding make fun of those people/make myself look stupid.
I wouldn't want to make a speech either. I can't make up shit on the spot like that. Especially at work. IT BLOWS
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Post by moonlightgranger on Jun 27, 2007 19:11:00 GMT -5
I could care less if'n I'm in front of a large crowd. When I'm with friends, I'll even do w/e I want- Inculding make fun of those people/make myself look stupid. I wouldn't want to make a speech either. I can't make up shit on the spot like that. Especially at work. IT BLOWS You don't do it on the spot though, most speeches you practice. and luna, maybe.
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Post by dboy6890 on Jun 27, 2007 23:29:02 GMT -5
i think it has a lot to do with your self esteem on whetehr you can do big speeches an stuff. like me, i cool with it, i just always have this feeling i'ma mess up something hella bad, but like with friends, we compete to be the loudest
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Post by moonlightgranger on Jun 28, 2007 0:25:30 GMT -5
I have lots of that, and ego too, but I don't push critticisms away.
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Post by dboy6890 on Jun 28, 2007 0:51:36 GMT -5
lolz i do! untill later when i think about it all alone in my room. i do that a lot. like when i go to sleep, i put the music on an think. like about life, choices i made, an i evaluate myself, like when i was an asswhole to my friend over somehin stupid. it wierd, do any1 else do that
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