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Post by biteme101 on Apr 29, 2007 21:09:58 GMT -5
i think parents should be able to discipline ther kids how they use too. being able to hit them but not beat them. kids today get away with alot of shit cuz all parents can do now is yell at them and thats not working out so well.
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Post by biteme101 on Apr 29, 2007 21:39:25 GMT -5
yeah but when they are little the parents arnt allowed to hit them and everyone knows what happens when you talk to your kid it goes in one ear and out the other
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Post by 2Die2™ on Apr 29, 2007 23:40:25 GMT -5
I'd hope that if I ever had kids, I would be able to discipline them with things like taking things away like games, TV, ect. I really wouldn't have to hit them. Honestly, this is one reason why I'd be too scared to be a father, because I wouldn't wanna screw up being a parent and have my kid become a statistic.
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Post by biteme101 on Apr 30, 2007 0:17:31 GMT -5
well i'd take things away or spank them thats the only things that would work cuz talk doesnt for the most part
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Post by Luna Sasaguri on Apr 30, 2007 0:34:20 GMT -5
yeah but when they are little the parents arnt allowed to hit them and everyone knows what happens when you talk to your kid it goes in one ear and out the other Excuse me? Aren't allowed to hit them? When was a national law passed that it was illegal to hit your kid? I totally advocate for the physical disciplining of kids. Some kids really need it, and it works! I am living proof of it. My mother and grandmother used to spank me and I know that consequences arise with doing bad things from being punished that way. If you drill it into the kid's head that your punishment for doing something bad will be an unpleasant experience, they will hopefully attempt to not do bad things, or even worse, do a really good job of not getting caught. And then of course there are the kids who don't react to spankings and stuff and talking does crap. Well...those are special cases where you might need a specialist to assess the situation, if you don't want the kid to get out of control because they cannot be disciplined the traditional way that is.
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Post by nigee on Apr 30, 2007 16:53:03 GMT -5
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youa rnt allowed to physically beat your child, yes it is a law, its called abuse. Children do have rights, and physical abuse is against the law. No one says anything about it tho since people do it anyways and dont care about it. Hell im 18 now, and if my parents or brother were to hit me, id make sure they hit me hard, cuz ill see their ass in court.
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Post by biteme101 on Apr 30, 2007 19:30:41 GMT -5
people are getting more into its wrong to hit kids
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Post by 2Die2™ on Apr 30, 2007 19:59:55 GMT -5
I say you go through all the alternatives before placing your hand on them. Most of the time, I think if parents had a bit more patients (and they often have a lot), they could figure out that some kids do things to see what gets attention and what doesn't. Many young kids won't repeat certain things as they grow up, if it didn't attract attention as a child. Babies cry, it's a sign that they may want nurturing, but, you can actually train a young child to behave a certain way if you pick and choose when and what you give the child attention for, there, possibly training the child not to throw temper tantrums when wanting attention, but replacing those tantrums with something else.. It's a form of conditioning.
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Post by Luna Sasaguri on May 1, 2007 0:38:54 GMT -5
youa rnt allowed to physically beat your child, yes it is a law, its called abuse. Children do have rights, and physical abuse is against the law. No one says anything about it tho since people do it anyways and dont care about it. Hell im 18 now, and if my parents or brother were to hit me, id make sure they hit me hard, cuz ill see their ass in court. There is a difference between abuse and spanking. Spanking your child for doing something wrong is not abuse. Of course children have rights, though of course not as many as adults do. They deserve a happy healthy home. However if the child is destructive and the parents arent doing what they can to deter this behavior, then that can be considered neglect. If a parent or older sibling hit you, then I believe if you really deserved it, they had every right to do it. You may not agree with that, but frankly, if you act like a dumbass you deserve a smack lol.
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Post by biteme101 on May 1, 2007 0:44:12 GMT -5
i agree with the spanking but i heard something about you cant spank you child after a certain age
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Post by lurn2spel on May 1, 2007 9:30:21 GMT -5
I never want to hear some one defend some one about a sibling hitting them... I say shut up if you think they should do that. Do you think it would be alright if I came and smacked you cause you were annoying me? No, I bet you wouldn't. PLUS, and older sibling? What kind of older sibling is that big of a jerk that they would hit some one that much(probably alot littler) then them? If you ever did that im glad you arn't related to me....... I agree 100% with nigee though. I'm not trying to flame you Luna but I'm just saying what makes you think its ok if some one hits you.
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Post by nigee on May 1, 2007 11:32:44 GMT -5
if its not ok to randomly spank people on the street, its not ok to spank kids, no matter how young
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Post by lurn2spel on May 1, 2007 11:43:42 GMT -5
Yeah good point. Its illegal to spank people on the street so.
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Post by biteme101 on May 1, 2007 21:33:15 GMT -5
i'd hit my kids if its needed the kid should respect people who are older then them but they dont and for most kids using spankings are the only things that work.
Also i have an older sister and she hits me i dont think its right. she doesnt have the right too if i just did something that she didnt like which is most of the time but if i was doing something that i knew i shouldnt be then yeah ok hit me for it but other then that no reason at all that i should be getting hit
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Post by nigee on May 3, 2007 0:47:39 GMT -5
im jsut not a big fan of physical discipline, i even cringe whenever my dad hits my dog for taking some food without my permission. So i of course give her more of wutever she took in spit eof him (i hat emy dad btw)
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